There is a lot of social stigma and plenty of raunchy comedy focused around finishing too fast — or before you’ve even officially started — when it comes to sex. Porn movies give the impression that intercourse should last for 15 to 30 minutes and involve at least 4 position changes. We’re not all Sting, though, and we aren’t all striving for 7-hour sessions of tantric sex. There actually is a point where enough is enough.
Many men are obsessed with lasting longer. It’s a sign of sexual prowess. Maybe it’s psychological compensation for size. If you don’t have a 10-inch cock, you’d better at least be able to use the one you’ve got for twice as long…or something to that effect. But, how long is too long? At what point does it go from tantalizing to mundane, and you just want to get it over with?
According to Wikipedia, “A 2008 survey of Canadian and American sex therapists stated that the average time for heterosexual intercourse (coitus) was 7 minutes and that 1 to 2 minutes was too short, 3 to 7 minutes was adequate and 7 to 13 minutes desirable, while 10 to 30 minutes was too long.”
Seems legit. A new article from Esquire addresses this issue as well, pointing out that sex may not be a sprint, but it’s also not supposed to be a marathon:
Abandon the notion that length of time you spend engaged in intercourse directly correlates to the quality of dick you’re giving. One hour of bad sex is still bad sex, but five mind-blowing minutes can be unforgettable. We’ve experienced just as many hookups that end decidedly premature as we’ve spent staring at the ceiling trying to determine how to politely ask, “Are you done yet?” After applying the same energy you were putting into going the distance to getting on the same page as your partner, a sex marathon may not seem as appealing (or triumphant) as it once did.
Keep in mind, that’s just the intercourse. You can flirt and tease and have plenty of foreplay that leads up to that exquisite moment. Just don’t try so hard to last longer that you cross the line from pleasure to chore and take all the fun out of it.
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